Let them (for us)
I like to think that Joyfully Dressed isn’t just about clothes—it’s also about how we feel and how we show up in the world (a bit like my post I shared on Insta today- if you haven’t already seen it take a peek!)
So, I need to tell you about a book I read a few weeks ago (and haven’t stopped talking about since). It’s called Let Them by Mel Robbins. Has anyone else read it?
Honestly, the mindset shift in this book was so simple but so effective that I just really wanted to share it with you all
Beacause firstly the mindset shift was really simple (but somehow, I’d never thought about it like this) and secondly because it was super easy to implement and instantly made a difference to how I felt.
The entire book boils down to this:
👉 Let them, let me. 👈
Basically, none of us can control anyone else’s behaviour. The only thing you can control is how you respond to it.
Some examples:
🔹 Your boss won’t give you a raise, even though you’re working your arse off? LET THEM undervalue you. LET YOU start looking for a job that does appreciate you.
🔹 Your friends go out for drinks without inviting you? LET THEM. LET YOU decide if you want to see more of them—or whether it's time to put your energy into other friendships. 🫶
🔹 Someone emails me with negative feedback about the membership (👀)? LET THEM feel how they feel. Instead of spiralling, LET ME decide whether to take it on board or just hit ‘reply’ with a polite ‘thanks for your feedback’ and move on.
The whole point? You get to decide how you respond—so you can stop worrying, overthinking, and second-guessing yourself all the time. It’s not about being selfish or stubborn, and it’s definitely not about being a pushover. It’s about recognising that you can’t control other people, but you can choose what’s best for you. At the end of the day, nobody can make someone else do anything.
And the reason I’m bringing this up here?
Because as I was reading the book, I kept thinking about how much this applies to style, too. 🌈
Changing the way we dress can feel really difficult and confronting, and one thing I see all the time is people feeling self-conscious about what others might think. Worrying about colleagues, husbands, random mums they don’t even know on the school run.
Well here is how you can apply this freeing idea….
👗 Your husband comments that your outfit looks brighter than usual? LET THEM have their opinion. LET YOUwear what makes you feel amazing. ✨
💄 Your mate side-eyes you for suddenly wearing lipstick on the school run? LET THEM think what they want. LET YOU strut out the door feeling fantastic. 💃
👖 You wear a dress on a coffee date and someone asks why? LET THEM wonder. LET YOU dress how you damn well please. 🎉
Because at the end of the day, your style is for YOU. 🥰
You deserve to feel amazing every day.
I’d love to know—does this resonate? Have you read the book? Or have you ever let someone’s comment make you second-guess what you wear? Let’s chat in the Facebook comments! ⬇️
If you don’t fancy reading the book you can listen to Mel Robbins podcast about the theory. To be honest her entire podcast is a great listen!